Relationship Issues

No relationship that leaves you feeling undervalued is acceptable.

Many clients engage me to work on relationship issues. This spans a lack of confidence in relationships, sometimes poor decision making, and intimacy issues. I often find clients benefit from remembering that not all relationships are going to be smooth sailing all the way. A relationship that is entirely untested is probably not particularly secure.

It's also quite hard to understand what is 'normal'. Just because our parents had a 50 year marriage, does that really mean we should? Often our viewpoint is coloured by redundant influences that have conditioned us to a certain damaging behaviour. Choosing what is right for us, and having the courage to apply it is one area in which hypnotherapy can help. Giving you the clarity of thought and the resolve you need is a function of the hypnotherapist.

The key to understanding your relationship behaviour is to look for repeated actions that have cropped up multiple times, sometimes across many relationships. In some instances we can even trace the issues clearly back to the way in which we deal with our parents or siblings. These repeated behaviours often hold the key to finding a solution.

For many people intimacy is a great challenge. The ability to let go - and often to make oneself vulneable - is a hurdle of enormous proportions. And yet, without that abandon, there is probably little chance of meaningful intimacy at either an emotional or physical level. In most aspects of society, we are conditioned to be 'safe'. We try not to do things that open us to harm. We don't let people get too close, we don't allow ourselves to trust too quickly and we act in a guarded manner. We probably act in this fashion for what we think are extremely good reasons.

This is all very well, but these very walls that protect us also keep people out. It can get pretty lonely in there. The media influences us to protect ourselves from anyone or anything that is not normal, however in reality few people are actually 'normal'. When you come across someone who is 'normal' the chances are you are not seeing the whole picture.

Our ability to see and accept people for what they really are, without judgement, is the starting point for better relationships. The chances are we ourselves may not be quite perfect, after all. Accepting each other, with all our failings is the starting point for good relationships.

Working on relationship issues typically only takes about three sessions. Use the Request An Appointment button to get further information, or alternatively have a close look at the Self Hypnosis Downloads. You may find something that helps.

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